Balance – Are you hanging in there?
Do you struggle to balance multiple hobbies, social activities, work and family life? With so many opportunities and limited time, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. Ultimately, in trying to keep options open, we can end up stretched thin and stressed out.
Letting Go of unimportant things
In studying how people make choices, researchers at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology found that we perceive relationships and objects as more valuable when we fear losing them. As a result, we spend time and energy staying connected to them to avoid feelings of loss. Often these people or things really are not a significant part of our lives.
Saying Goodbye to Possibilities
Choosing one job or one romantic partner over another might mean eliminating future possibilities. But, at the same time, it allows you to center on what is most important to you. While dealing with the initial loss is difficult, keeping too many doors open can be emotionally and physically draining – or can prevent you from making any choices at all.
By limiting your options and saying no to new commitments, you will likely feel less conflicted and can allow yourself to focus on what is most important. For a calmer, more satisfying lifestyle, re-evaluate how you spend your time. Prioritize social and volunteer commitments; give up those that are not fulfilling or are otherwise less important to you. Rethink timeconsuming hobbies that have lost their appeal. Trim holiday card lists – and even instant messaging lists – to only those with whom you want to remain in contact. Consider your current responsibilities before volunteering to take on new projects at work. Keep your children’s after-school activities in check – then enjoy some extra time relaxing together.